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Words Matter
Every thing we say has an impact on the people around us.
I had a very interesting dream a few days ago. Here goes:
I was sitting around a festive, holiday table with a bunch of people — me being one of many guests. The dinner was over and, as I was preparing to leave, one of the other guests began complaining about something — his intention, apparently, to bond with me before I exited — his attempt to find some kind of “common ground” to talk about.
As I listened to his diatribe, I could feel my whole being shrinking and the pleasures of the evening beginning to dissipate. It was precisely at this moment that I realized I had a choice — either sit passively by, nodding my head in agreement — or speak my truth, which is what I decided to do.
What I said, was something like this (and I paraphrase):
“What you are saying, my friend, has an affect on me — but not a good one. Please know that your words matter — all our words matter — they affect things, especially the people around us. In fact, what you say goes into me and has the power to bring me down or awaken the part of me always wanting to become more alive. Speak to THAT part of me. When you do, the best in me awakens. Your words are a kind of fishing line you cast. They go into the people around you. Why not cast your line for love and see what nibbles you get there.”
